Health + Wellness

Open and Fearless

I’ve never been the one to do the whole “words for the year” thing. It just wasn’t me. Still isn’t. I’m all about manifesting this year and I want to manifest openness and fearlessness. I’m going to be open about just about any and everything in order to not close off any opportunities, relationships, career advancements, anything. Nothing is off limits. But in order to be open, I have to be fearless.

Fearfulness causes you to be afraid and closed off to anything new and positive changes. In order to manifest, you have to feel and say what you want with no hesitation, stipulations, or conditions. For me, I have to let the fear of rejection, failure, and not being enough, die. No more living in the past and going off of past experiences. All of that last fear is going to interfere with future endeavors.

What are you manifesting this year, or do you have word(s) of the year that you want to work on?

Health + Wellness

Don’t Let the Holidays Ruin Your Health and Fitness Goals

Many people are on a health and fitness journey and I often hear too many times that people will hault their journey until after the holidays. They do this in order to pig out and forgo any progress they’ve made, basically setting themselves back a few steps.

Why do this? What’s the point? Say you’ve lost ten pounds so far. You’re really going to risk gaining that ten pounds back and some? Priorities are clearly out of sort. 

Being vegan, I don’t typically partake in the food that everyone else indulges in, though I do make my own vegan version of these same foods. The difference is calories, fat, sodium, cholesterol, and what’s called “the itis.”

I am off work the next week, but that doesn’t mean that I am not meal prepping. In fact, I meal prepped before this post went out (last night). I have calorie goals since I’m breastfeeding as well as health goals when it comes to food choices. I’ve been on a roll and I dare not mess that up.

So how can one stick to their health and fitness goals through the holidays? Continue to do what you’re doing. Don’t hault your journey for foods that aren’t going to do anything but put you to sleep and gurgle your stomach. Also, don’t be so strict on yourself. Enjoy those foods, but in moderation. Don’t pig out. 

In order to reach these goals, you have to continue striving towards them, pushing through any obstacles that seem daunting. 

How do you stay on track during the holidays?

My Life

“Never give up, it’s such a wonderful life…”

Relationships end. That’s just how life goes. I feel like since I’ve turned 30, I’ve developed more of a “fuck it” attitude towards a myriad of things. Whether it be people or things, my tolerance level for “fuck shit” is nonexistent.

My life is amazing right now, and I honestly could not be happier (well, I kind of could but that’s beside the point). My son is healthy and thriving, hitting many milestones early. We’ve been spending every free moment together and there are so many more moments to come. The pumpkin patch last Saturday was absolutely joyous and it was a beautiful day outside.

I’m working on my health and the betterment of my livelihood. I’m not necessarily trying to lose weight, but I am trying to build my immune system and keep my stamina and energy up. My skin is clear and my head is even clearer when it comes to many things.

The relationship between my son’s father and I is getting better. We have actually been having civilized conversations. Are we friends? Of course not, but we are cordial for the sake of our child. That’s all that needs to happen: we have to be able to be a united front when it comes to Malakhai and his well being.

My family is stronger than ever, and I feel like the birth of my son brought us closer. As a single mom, and even as a married or in-a-relationship mom, it truly takes a village to raise children, and my village is built Ford tough (see what I did there? You’ll only get it if you live in Texas).

Work is work. I love teaching wholeheartedly, but I think it’s getting close to time to move elsewhere within the education system. I am working on some things behind the scenes that I am not quite ready to share yet, but I will soon. Sometime next year.

My bills are paid, my son is fed, there’s food in my fridge, we have clothes on our backs, and we are living life. So to those of you, and you know damn well who you are specifically, don’t try to ruin my joy with your bitterness and misery. My life is good, live yours and stay out of mine with your negativity. We are grown now and that childishness, you can miss me with that. It’s true that misery needs and loves company, but I’d rather stay to myself and be joyful and happy.

See, I’ve dealt with negativity from people for so long, from friends to even more so, family, but no longer. I have goals that I am trying to reach and anyone who knows what it’s like to be goal-oriented, knows that negative people will only bring you down and prolong reaching your success. I can see the peak of the mountain, and no one will be an obstacle on my way up. Stay at the bottom if you cannot be a positive rock in my life.

I say all this to say that, not everyone is going to be for you when it comes to your goals and being successful in whatever it is you are doing. Ctrl + Alt + del them with a quickness.

xoxo Moniqua Lashae

My Life

Hello September…

It’s September and I couldn’t be more excited. My birthday is right around the corner. I’m still in the works of planning my bday but I think I’m going to book a local air bnb. Of course Malakhai will be with me. Can’t leave him out of my festivities.

I’ve finally accepted that I have some form of PPD and I have been talking to someone about it. I’ve been ignoring it and trying to make myself believe it was something else but it’s PPD and apparently, you can get it even when your child is an adult. Imagine that.

Last week I wrapped up my Boss Lady series and if you haven’t checked it out, click here. I will be beginning a new series either next month or in November, but I’ll be sure to keep you all posted.

I finished my first week of school (I’m a teacher) and I’m about to start the second week. Funny we have a three day weekend for Labor Day and next weekend will be another three day weekend. I’m wondering who I need to convince to make school four days a week instead of five because that extra day on the weekend is necessary.

Busgeting has been rough, especially for the month of August. I did not stick to the budget and went over in every category. However, I won’t dwell on the past. It’s a new month and that means I can start anew and try again. I’ve learned that with budgeting, it takes time. I can’t continue to beat myself up over the mistakes or going over in one or all categories. Also, I get my first check since coming off of my temporary leave of absence, tomorrow. So I’ll be setting up my budget based on that check for the next two weeks.

I’m renewing my lease in my apartment because I’ve decided it’s best I pay off my student loans before investing in a house. I also need to pay off that emergency personal loan I got over the summer to float me until I got paid. My budget was going so well and I budgeted from when I went on leave, up until now. Not sure where I went wrong, but I did mess up somewhere.

I’ve been making some goals that I want to seriously work towards, one being to pay off my student loans before 2021. It’s definitely feasible, but I need another side hustle, preferably one that brings in an extra $1,000 per month.

Malakhai is starting to try to roll over. He has the gist of it, he just needs to follow through. He’s getting so big now and it’s going faster than I’m ready for. He is definitely a mama’s boy.

Some of my goals for this month are:

• stick to the budget

• cut eating out to maybe 4 times this month

• meal plan every single week

• only but groceries that I’ll be eating that week

• limit my time on social media

• take Khai out more

• make a conscious effort to post at least two blog posts a week (this may be doable)

• be consistent with financial Friday’s and my money FB group

• make a schedule to post videos for IGTV

• workout (I’ve lost all motivation to lose this baby weight)

• go out at least two times to meet ups or take myself out

• better prepare my lessons each week and have materials ready for the week

• get better organized

I know this is a long list, but I do need to get better about a lot of these things.

What are some of your goals for September?

My Life

Goals for 2018

A new year means new goals. I don’t believe in resolutions. I believe in goals, something to work towards. I do these posts every year on this day because it’s something to look back on. My goals for 2017, crushed majority of them. I can’t wait to see what 2018 has in store. Without further ado:

  1. Have a happy, healthy baby.
  2. Run a successful lifestyle and mom blog.
  3. Pay off half of my student loans.
  4. Put a down payment on a house.
  5. Have a fire post baby body.
  6. Continue to be a writing teacher or write full time.
  7. Featured in Black magazines/YT channels/blogs.
  8. Make Forbes list.
  9. Do more freelance work.
  10. Fall in love.
  11. Travel.
  12. Work from home.

These goals are very attainable (Forbes list is a stretch but dammit it will be one of my goals until I make it). I always tell people when setting goals, make sure they are logical and within reason (also have one or two that are a stretch, something to work harder towards).

What are your goals for 2018?

My Life

3 Things 2017 Taught Me

We are always learning lessons, more so as we get older. This past year has been a whirlwind of learning and life events. Not all have been good, and not all have been bad. I have to say 2017 was a pretty damn good year.

  1. Budgeting. I have been on a strict budget and I have to say, it has paid off, literally. I’ve paid off a good amount of debts this year and it showed me that I can manage my money. I used to be this huge spender, especially when it came to food and clothes. I’ve become more frugal and minimalistic and that has been a money saver. I don’t buy anything that is not an absolute need. If I leave something in the store and the next time I come back and it’s not there, that means I didn’t need it. I always used to confuse my needs and wants ( not really, I just needed everything I wanted lol). Needs are things that you can’t live without and I had to keep that mindset.
  2. Consistency. I think 2017 has been my least consistent year when it comes to my blog, YT channel and novels. I have slacked so much this year and I now realize that that contributes a lot to me falling further and further behind of becoming a full time creator. Had I been as consistent as I know I could’ve and should’ve been, I may be in a different place right now. I let outside distractions deter me from my goal, and now I am paying for it. Could I have been a full time blogger and creator by now? Damn skippy, but I let all of these outside distractions occupy my mental. I remember when I first started my blog how dedicated I was, posting almost everyday. I have now set a schedule to where there are at least 2 new posts a week. I would let the ways of others and how they run their blogs influence my moves, but now, I know that techniques don’t work the same for everyone and don’t fit every situation. I have to run my business the way I see that best fits me and my consumers (that would be you, the person reading this).
  3. Love. Love is not just for another person of the opposite sex. I have learned that love can be for anyone. I fell in love this year and I know in 2018 I will fall deeper in love when my baby is born. I never knew how being pregnant can open your eyes to a different kind of love. Feeling my baby kick is the most beautiful thing and knowing that I am doing everything in my power to make sure my little one comes out healthy, there’s no greater love than that. I always equated love to being something I would feel with a man, not knowing that love is family, children, friends, etc. There is not one definition of love nor one person whom it’s for. Love can be for anyone. Do I still want love from my mate one day? Of course I do. Who doesn’t? But I had to learn that love has no number (person).

What is something, or some things, that 2017 has taught you?

My Life

My 15 Expectations of 2017

I made a video on my goals for 2017-2019.  So now I want to go year by year and we are going to start with 2017, which begins tomorrow. With 2016 coming to an end, I’ve been reflecting on all of the things that the year has brought me. I got my first apartment and a damn nice one at that and I also became a teacher. Those were two very big steps I took in my adult life; getting my own place and starting a career.

These were things that I have been working on for years and I never thought that they would happen within months of each other. Now that I am settling into things, I do have some expectations of the upcoming year.

  1. To be a bestselling author by the end of the year. I know it’s possible.
  2. Be able to write full time.
  3. Be able to begin the process of building a tiny home.
  4. Connect with my soulmate, fall in love and get pregnant.
  5. I want yoga to become more proficient in my life.
  6. My passport needs some loving so I am definitely all for chances to travel.
  7. Blogging has been a passion the past few years so if that could take off, finally, I’m all for it.
  8. Be a brand ambassador for Black brands that are relevant to me and beneficial.
  9. Collaborative efforts with other like-minded individuals.
  10. Network with other Blackpreneurs such as poets, bloggers, writers and authors.
  11. Move to a more climate friendly place for melanin rich people.
  12. Financial stability is a huge one for me. That was something I began working on in 2015 and so far, I am doing very well with it. I have paid off so much debt in 2016, it’s ridiculous and I have a little way to go before I start working on my student loans.
  13. Save more money for emergencies. I have never been a good saver, but I am also not a huge spender. I spend most of my checks on debt and now that I am coming to a good place with that, I can save more money.
  14. Build friendships and better the ones that I already have.
  15. Lastly, to step out of my comfort zone and go for what I want. I’m specifically talking about my dreams. In order for me to achieve them I have to push myself to do things that make me feel uncomfortable like open mic night at the poetry lounge, telling whoever I am in a relationship with exactly how I feel, be more aggressive with my wants and needs and put forth more effort into things.

These things I want to achieve by the end of 2017 and I have created a checklist and will make a video/post as I accomplish them. I want to keep track and record my accomplishments so I can look back on them and see how far I have come. See you all in the new year.

xoxo, Afro Hippie Vegan, Last day of 2016

My Life

2016 has been a great year

Around this time last year I did not think that I would be where I’m at in my life now. Last year this time I was:

-living paycheck to paycheck

-had a negative balance

-working as a substitute teacher

-couldn’t pay all my bills

-living at home

-depressed

-unhappy

I was a lot more things but those were the main things. Financially I was so unstable and that was hard for me even with living at home. My mom footed the bill as far as a roof over my head but for everything else, I had to pay all of that. I felt like I was hitting rock bottom. This may not sound like anything serious to anyone else, but it was a serious thing to me.

Things started looking up when I took my contract exam for my teacher certification at the beginning of this year, January 12 to be exact. I passed all parts except one, which apparently was not enough to to get hired as a teacher but whatever. So I retook that section I didn’t pass again a and I passed so I got my probationary certificate. I was so excited about that until I started applying for teaching positions and was being denied from each one. So I pushed that to the back of my mind.

The next thing that happened after that was I paid off a loan with my bank and the IRS. That freed up a great deal of money for me and I became somewhat stable until summer came and I w no longer working as a substitute. Substitute teachers do not get paid in the summer like teachers do. I was working part time as a tour and that was barely enough to eat off of, I had to ask my mom to help me until I could get back on my feet, and I’m not a prideful person but I hate depending on others even if it is my mom. 

June is when things really started looking up. I finally got a yes for a teaching positions to teach second grade and I was ecstatic. I was too happy to finally be able to find a job that I wanted. Not long after that, I moved into my first apartment, in August, a week before school started. 

Once I started working, I became happier and happier because it was what I wanted to do. I love teaching, I love working with kids and just knowing I’m making a difference in the life of a child. With that comes great pay which has helped me a great deal financially. I will have a credit card paid off in February and the other possibly before the school year ends. 

Another thing I’ve been able to do was write a new book and start on another. I’ve had a lot more creativity since I have been able to work doing something I love. I’ve been happier and I think that translates into some of the things I wrote in my book. 

I’ve also been able to reach and impact more people on social media through IG and YouTube. Those are two goals of mine in 2017 – to grow my rolling and reach more people.

With all of that being said, I can only imagine what great things are going to happen in2017. 2016 has been so great to me, and I am thankful for everything that has flourished in my life. With patience, faith and positivity, great things will happen. 

Let me know in the comments what great thing shave happened for you in 2016.