All Black Everything

Black Women vs….well…Black Women

I was watching Red Table Talk with Jada Pinkett-Smith, her daughter Willow, and her other Adrienne. They were discussing how Black Women should be the bigger people and bridge the gap between us and White Women. I had a huge problem with that. Why should it be up to use to bridge this gap that was not created by us? Why is it our responsibility? I feel like that’s a child begging to fit in with kids that they don’t belong with, or me trying to build a relationship with my father who doesn’t want any parts of it.

My most daunting question is: Why are we trying to bridge a gap between us and another race of women when we can’t even bridge the gap between us and other Black Women? That is where the real issue is. If we cannot come together as a race and build each other up, uniting as a group of women, why try to do it with another race? That’s like trying to find love with another person and you don’t even love yourself.

Black Women have been pitted against each other for the longest (since slavery). We have so much divide among us from hair, to skin color, to how we raise our kids, to being single parents, to body discrimination, to careers, etc. On top of that, we have to deal with our own mental health issues and realizing that we need professional help and that it is okay to seek it. 

So, even before we can bridge the gap between us and other Black Women, we need to deal with our own issues. We come from generational mental health disorders and a cohort of other issues that we don’t deal with, continuing to live life broken, going off of a hope, a wish, and a prayer that we will magically be whole again. It doesn’t work like that sis.

My issue with these “celebrities” is how they use their platforms to appease “other” people instead of uniting their own. Why are you begging to be a part of the masses who could not care less about you? You have little boys and girls who look up to you because you look like them, and they’re seeing you with your puppet strings putting on a show for kids who don’t look like you, controlled by the puppet massa’. How sway?

 I’m all for unity, but it starts with first healing yourself, working to unite the culture, and that’s where it stops. It is not our job to get everyone else to sing “Kumbaya”. What are your thoughts on this issue?

All Things Writing


Writing is a form of healing expression

Growing up, my mom would buy me diaries for birthdays and Christmases. I wrote through all of them, poems, my feelings and thoughts, my latest crush, everything. I was one of those kids who loved to write. Even when I wrote letters to my friends, they were always more than two pages, front and back, all for one idea. They hated it, but I didn’t care. When I express myself through writing, I have to add every single thought that comes to mind, even if it is irrelevant. I do that when I make YouTube videos as well, but I edit some of it out.

Recently, I got back in to personal writing, or journaling as most call it. It has proven to be very rewarding. I bought a few of those composition books that kids use for school, the ones that are $.88 at Walmart. I am already half way through one and another is being used as my prayer journal. I think that is why I have been so stressed lately because I don’t typically talk to people about my problems, and when I write, I leave it all on the paper, close the book and I feel better. I feel like a weight has been lifted.

I highly recommend to those who feel like there is no on listening to their problems, to write in a journal. You don’t necessarily have to talk to someone about everything that is going on because nine times out of ten, people get tired of hearing it. Writing it in a journal, you are still putting it out into the universe and not bottling it up inside. I can guarantee that if you spend at least 10 minutes a day writing (I typically do one to two hours), you will feel a sense of relief. I write longer only because I have a lot bottled up inside and it is hard to stop writing once I start. Many thoughts come to me at one time.

I’ll give an example of when I write. I don’t normally write two hours straight. First thing in the morning, I have to use the bathroom. So I take my journal and pencil and I write what I like to call “Toilet Thoughts.” It’s really about how I am feeling that morning, the dreams I had the night before and how I feel the day may go. That really helps to get the negative feelings out. If I feel a sense of negativity, I write in order to put the negativity into the journal, and get it out of my mind, body and spirit. It really does work because then my day turns out better. This actually happened this morning. I had terrible dreams last night that when I woke up this morning, I felt terrible. I was sad and down. So I had my “toilet thoughts” session and I feel more empowered to take on the day.

I know quite a few people who journal and I’ve heard how it has helped them. I feel like it can help anyone and no, you do not have to be a writer to journal. No one ill see it so it is okay to misspell words, use ebonics, write like you’re texting. Me on the other hand, since I don’t do any of that in my regular writing or texting, I don’t do that in my journal. Because I’m a writer, it would bother me too much (don’t judge my life, lol).

If you decide to take up journaling, please don’t be afraid to let me know how it goes. I would love to hear from you if it has helped, and even if it hasn’t. If you do journal, let me know how it has helped you.

Stayed tuned for my next post about music I listen to while writing my novels, journaling, or any other type of wordsmithing.