I met Chrys through Jazzie (yes, the one from Jazzzie By Nature). I can’t remember what it was for but I do remember we didn’t hit it off right away. After some time had passed and we kept running into each other, we formed a relationship over writing and our love for books. We are a lot a like, yet different. She is an amazing writer, but let me stop there so we can get into their interview.
Hey Chrys! So first things first, tell the readers a little about yourself.
I am a mother and a writer. I really love to read, exercise and cackle with my friends. lol…I’ve just realized that I am information driven, which for me looks like learning on a continuous basis. I’m that person that knows a little bit about a lot.
How long have you been writing and what made you want to be a writer?
I’ve wanted to be a writer ever since my 11th grade English teacher Mr. Fisher affirmed my writing ability. He helped me to believe in myself. He said I was one of the two best students in the class. That meant a lot to me. Graduation came the next year so I majored in Mass Communications with the dream of becoming an editor for a major magazine publication like Essence, Ebony or Jones Magazine. I’ve been writing professionally since 2009 and launched my magazine in 2010 called The BAR Mag. So, it’s been 9 years now.
What are some projects that you are currently working on? (If there are any that you want to disclose).
I’m working on my next book. I’m also doing more of my own writing now. I’ve been focused on my clients so much that I haven’t written much for me. So, I’m stepping away from my consultant business and getting my work out there more. I journal and share my entries on social media, and that’s been a beautiful experience. Because of that, a friend of mine reached out to collaborate for a journaling challenge, so we’ll be launching that later this month. My writing is becoming a healing practice. My life is becoming a healing practice. So aside from writing, I’m becoming a Birth worker which I’m really excited about!
What is a birth worker and when did you realize you wanted to do that?
There are different things that fall in line with birth work. I’m in training to become a Certified Birth and Postpartum Doula and in addition to that, I offer Placenta Encapsulation. I think there are a lot of women, specifically Black women who are unaware of their options when it comes to childbirth. The c-section rate is at an all-time high and I want to be the wild woman standing in the gap for them. I want to advocate for those who can’t advocate for themselves in one of the most trying times of their lives.
What do you want other women to learn from you and your experiences?
I want for women to know that you can change your life at any moment, that you are the creator of your life. Put your goals in motion even when you don’t see it, do it anyway. The Universe will match your efforts. Go boldly into what fuels you. I hope that women will also learn that they are not what happens to them. They are not what other people say about them. I want women to see me and know that they too can take back their power.
How do you find inspiration for novels and/or ebooks?
I think most writers find inspiration in all things. Sometimes scenarios come up in my head and I just create from there. I use my own life as inspiration too. I could be sitting in a park or beauty salon and inspiration will find me. Even in my sleep, ideas will come to me and I won’t be able to sleep until I write them down.
How do you balance everything along with being a single mother? Is it hard? Easy?
I don’t. I don’t believe in balance. I fail at something every day. My goal is for it not to be the same thing every day. Yes, it’s hard being a single mother. However, I am learning to look at the challenges in a positive way. Instead of focusing on what’s missing, I emphasize what’s available. I let my child be my guide. I also listen to my own inner guidance. That’s how I know when to do what. I may suck as a mother on Monday, and not meet a deadline for Tuesday, but on Wednesday I’m back rolling. If balance is a real thing, that’s what I think it would look like.
What are you wanting your daughter to learn from you?
I want her to just learn. My parenting style has evolved as I have. I leave room for her to be and do what she wants with guidance. As I introduce her to things, I ask what she feels instead of assuming that I know what’s best for her. She knows what’s best for her when it comes to her desires. My job is to expose her to as much as possible and to live my life in a way that she feels liberated. I tell her the truth about everything. I want her to learn the truth in all things. That’s major for me.
Where can people find you?
Thank you for having me be a part of this series! It was awesome.