I listen to the Minimalist Moms podcast every morning and one thing they talked about that pertains to minimalism is JOMO: the joy of missing out. I have to say that I have a severe case of this because missing out on things does not bother me. When friends cancel, I don’t fear that I missed something. I am overjoyed. When friends have a get together or when I see my friends doing so many great things or going to events on social media, I don’t have a fear that I’m missing out or that I missed out on anything.
What I’ve learned on this minimalism journey is that I don’t have to attend every event. This also reigns true for my debt free journey. There will be plenty of times where I will miss out but who cares? What’s important to others is not always important to me and vice versa.
People tend to make fun of those who are homebodies, which really comes from their lack of understanding of why someone would choose to stay at home over going out, getting drunk, gossiping, living the wild life. I prefer to only attend functions that benefit me in stimulating conversation, networking, collaborating or a means to increase and better my business. If it has nothing to do with those, count me out.
Now that I have a baby boy on the way, I’m sure my priorities and wanting to go out will change, meaning, I will be more willing to go out to the park, meet up with other moms for play dates, and when he gets older, take him to places like an indoor trampoline park. That type of going out will benefit me in a way that my son is having fun and I am spending time with him doing something that he enjoys or that we enjoy together.
Do I feel like I’m missing out because I see my friends have sleepovers and I’m not invited? Absolutely not. I didn’t even go to sleepovers as a child (maybe one or two that I rememer). I feel as though I would be awkward in that type of setting.
I think the thing is is that I haven’t found a small number of women near me that share the same interests such as veganism, children, health, politics, racial issues, the universe, meditating, spirituality, creating (blogging, business, planning), etc. I have many interests that a lot of women that I know don’t share. Nowadays it’s Love and Hip Hop, the Kardashians and other people and things that are irrelevant to my growth and life.
It’s been said that it’s not okay to not have friends. I agree to the point that it’s not okay to not have friends that share the same interests or are on the same path. It’s not oaky to have friends that bring you down and would rather see you fail than prosper. Those types of people are the ones who give me JOMO because I know that whatever activity they are partaking in, I’m not with it.
Do you have the case of the JOMO? Why or why not?